Having the Tough Conversation with Your Parents about Senior Living

March 12th, 2019 | For Family Members


The relationships you develop with your parents can be deeply meaningful. Which makes having a conversation about moving into senior living communities difficult for all involved. For you, these conversations are challenging, but they also have meaningful, deeply personal impacts on the lives of your parents.

Your senior parents trust you to give them the best advice possible. You also want to be confident they are happy with the decisions made. At Legend Senior Living®, our goal is to help those in need find the care they deserve while maintaining respect, independence, and dignity. Over the years, we’ve learned some tried and true tips from our clients and their families that can help you have a difficult conversation.

Speak from the heart

Help your parents by being sensitive to their needs, wants, and fears, and include them in the conversation about their lives. Give your honest assessment, even if you know it may be difficult for them to hear.

Make collaborative choices

People are more willing to make choices when they take part in the decision. Structure your conversation in a way that shows you aren’t trying to run their lives; rather that you’re focused on their health, safety, and happiness.

Set up senior living community tours

Encourage them to schedule a tour of communities so they can meet people and see the environments firsthand. As they talk to residents, they can weigh their decisions based on what’s important to them.  

 

Know the signs to help assess the situation

It can be hard to admit when your parents can’t handle living on their own. It’s important that you know the signs that it’s time to consider senior living. Here is a list of what to look for:

  • Weight loss due to malnutrition or inability to feed oneself
  • Frailty of strength or stature
  • Weight gain, potentially due to illness or inactivity
  • Changes in behavior, appearance, or bathing habits
  • Loss of friendships, activities, or interests
  • Unopened bills, personal mail, or past-due notices
  • When daily living activities and independent living activities wane
  • Chronic, persistent health conditions or conditions that require daily monitoring
  • Slower recovery for minor injuries or illnesses
  • Recent accidents or incidents

Senior living means not worrying about when they’ll get a nutritious meal, not having to worry about them forgetting to turn off the stove, a slip or a fall, or forgetting to take their medications. Be open and honest regarding your concerns about them living on their own. They’ll appreciate how much you value their safety, happiness, health, and independence. Senior living ensures that your parents will have the assistance in the case of an emergency or accident.